stinkyry4.jpgSo, this weekend I had a ‘moment’.

Like Lola, I am fiesty, fun, fearless and fabulous - how do I know? Because I tell myself every day, of course! Except for a moment, on friday, I let someone’s judgements and opinions about my fabulous-o self make me feel sad and bad.

It was a stinky boy-type, and he asked what I did for a living. I told him I write books and deliver workshops to help girls feel good about themselves, and do you know what he said? He said: “How can you do that when you’re overweight? I mean you’re really pretty, but you’re a big girl, you can’t be happy with yourself so how can you help others feel good about themselves?”

Yep, he REALLY said that.

Without a hint of irony.

Now, I’m not a violent girl, but it was all I could do not to punch him on the nose, right there and then. I was so shocked at his audacity, that I didn’t know what to say, but when I was taking my make-up off later that evening, I realised I was mad. Not necessarily at what he had said, but that;

1. I didn’t have a kick-ass comeback - don’t you hate it when you think of a million, trillion things to say after the event?

2. That, momentarily, I gave a stinky boy-type permission to question my fabulousity - because I did, for a moment there, I thought, “gosh, what if he’s right? What if I’m a bad role model for girls?”

So I thought about it, and dealt with it in the only way I know how - I wrote it out in my journal. I won’t bore you with all the deets, but basically these were my conclusions:

* I rock, that’s factuality, and I’d still rock whether I was a size 6 or a size 20 - what matters to me is that I’m healthy, not what dress size I am. And newsflash to stinky, judgemental boy-types - you can be a size 16 AND healthy - it involves, walking, dancing and eating everything I like - in moderation.

* I’m fab at what I do, I’ve got a HUGE pink and fluffy file filled-to-the-brim with compliments, emails, and most importantly, letters from amazing Pink Ladies telling me how the books/the workshops have had a positive impact on their world…

* Most importantly, don’t let anyone ever make you feel bad about your sweet self, especially a stinky boy-type.

The same goes for you, chicas…People are entitled to have their own thoughts and opinions, even if they’re negative and not-very-nice, but they can only make you feel bad if you let ‘em, so don’t let ‘em, ‘k?

Keep your own pink fuzzy file for moments of self-doubt - fill it with nice emails from your gal-pals, a compliment a stranger made about your cute cardi…

Tell yourself ‘I’m fabulous’ at least three times a day before leaving the house…

Copy the quote below into your journal or onto a post it note so you can see it every, single day.

 ”No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt - kick-ass lady of awesomeness.